Asking the hard questions (24) and discovering the answers (25)

"What do you really want?"

Most of the time we can easily share what we don't want but when it comes to saying what we want, our brains tend to freeze. 

"What do you really want?"

At least for me, I paused at the question and I thought hard and long. If you don't know what you want, it's unlikely you will get it. Our brain needs direction. It needs to know what to do. Otherwise our habitual patterns kick in. It is like, we almost have to move intentionally. It takes effort to do what we want or our subconscious habits take over.

(follow up from 2025...) Over the last 3 months, I have also realised that it takes courage to answer the tough questions and it is OK to not know the answers yet. But you keep exploring, you keep opening and closing doors, you keep trying, you keep failing and getting up. The point is, the process of becoming, the journey of having fun, the heartbreaks, the not knowing, the ups and the downs, eventually something will happen for you.

Life is a series of experiments, a journey of adventures, sometimes we take pit stops and sometimes we change course. We meet people along the way, some continue the ride and some get off when the time is up. There is no right or wrong, everything is about timing and experiences we have together. We get to choose what and how we want to experience life. Our life. 

We can ask for what we want but we have to be prepared we may not get what we want, yet or not. It does not matter what the outcome is either. We simply ask. We train our mind to be resilient to the outcomes. We observe ourselves and learn through the process of asking. "Is this really what I want?" Because when we don't have it, we crave for it. And we get it, we may realised that we don't want it that bad after all. It happens to me so many times. So be very careful what you asked for...because sometimes the tougher question might be... "So, what's next?"

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